May 19 2025 Monday

Talking about Pat's granny, my mom, They had a close relationship. She was very loving and he was super happy, she had a farm we would visit with a pond, in N.J.(it was Mom's day and May 3 was her birthday. (1924) She was of the 'E' name generation like she was Elaine. Her sister was Eloise. I recently met a Eunice. Sorry to digress...

Here is something I really wanted to say:

When I work on Pat's book, going through photographs or scanning writing of his, but mostly photographs, it can get really depressing pretty fast. Makes it hard to spend time working on stuff related to Pat.
So, I know how it feels and it's part of getting through things and emerging on the other side a happier person. It's like dealing with pain. Pain is necessary to evolve and reach a happier better layer of existence.
Happy Spring that's all for now. (todd/dad)

book list

 Well this might be a book list I thought to make.

Just simply books that I think about sharing with Pat.

We read a library when he was little. A TON of books, all the Wizard, Dolittle books I bought out of print about 10 or more.  An amazing amount of books we read together I read to him from age 3 probably or 2.

Daniel Mason North Woods 20240924

stackexchange

https://stackoverflow.com/questions/55596223/setting-a-timeout-for-promise

Hazards and Promises

Our world is full of extreme hazard right now, and also extreme promises. 
Blockchains promise to democratize contracts, to distribute trust and agreement.
Mobile gives every person a portable communication and intelligence device.

Yet the world is in the most dangerous collective position it's ever been.  Humans are exposing via media, and computer communications, their darkest, most ignorant and destructive emotional sides.  Also the side of hiding, turning away, ignoring the reality and dangers of climate change, for now.

So onward we go...

Elaine Marshall Toscano

Elaine Kautz Marshall Toscano
Ms. Toscano, born Elaine Kautz in 1924,  grew up in Chicago, Pittsburgh, and East Orange, N.J.  She was the daughter of Edwin Kautz, a pacifist Southern Baptist Minister and theological professor.  She moved to Princeton with three young sons and a daughter, to live in a more accepting social environment for raising her children and where her mentally retarded daughter could best thrive.  As a housewife to Donald Marshall who worked at Western Electric on Carter Road in Princeton,  she wanted to work, have her own bank account and car.  She asked Dr. Phil McPherson, then schools superintendent in the Township, for a school position as a teacher so she could achieve more independence than a housewife had,  at a time when many husbands would not allow those liberties to their wives, in the early to mid 1960's.  She taught Kindergarten at Riverside School with Mrs. Rounds and later Community Park School under the principal Dr. Biringer,  teaching with Mr. Ishibashi.  She was a great friend to prominent Princeton women, Doris Decker, and Bani Shorter.  She was proud to work summers in the Head Start program in Trenton, and at Princeton Schools in the Pre-K program.  She taught for two decades and married a science teacher at Princeton High School,  John Toscano, of Cranbury, N.J. enjoying many years living with him at his Flower Farm.  She is survived by two sons, and five grandchildren.

The grinding wheel of life.  Feeling guilt; the guilt trip.  The protective coccoon.

Sympathy

Thinking about the ability of people to be sympathetic to another's difficulties.  There are people who react differently either that they have all the problems and they cannot sympathize with another, or perhaps they are religious and take the 'god is punishing you' position, or perhaps that we have to 'heal' with our healing touch etc.